Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Bill 2448 Approved!

Assembly panel approves bill regulating home-schooling of foster children despite outcry

Published: Tuesday, May 15, 2012, 7:30 AM




TRENTON — An Assembly panel approved two bills Monday intended to protect the rights of foster children to receive an education and to practice their religion. At the same time, parents who home-school their children expressed concern about the state intruding on their privacy.
The more controversial of the two bills (A2881) would require foster parents to obtain approval from the state Division of Youth and Family Services to home-school any child placed in their home.
More than 50 parents and their children urged the Assembly Women and Children Committee to delay the vote until the bill could be rewritten to more clearly state that only children removed from their homes because of suspected abuse or neglect would be affected.
New Jersey is one of 11 states that does not regulate home-schooling.
"We don’t like giving DYFS any more power than they already have," said Rabbi Andrew Dinnerman of Fairview, who was accompanied by his 15-year-old son, Tristan, who is home-schooled. "I want you to pause — to slow down and not make any rash decisions."
But Assemblywoman Pamela Lampitt (D-Camden), the committee chairwoman, insisted the bill be put to a vote, and assured parents they were not the focus of her attention.
The measure was inspired by a case nine years ago of four brothers who were adopted by a Collingswood foster family. The family removed the boys from public school and deprived them of food and medical care until their growth was stunted.
"This has everything to do with making sure children in DYFS care have another set of eyes," Lampitt said moments before the bill was approved by a vote of 5 to 2.
The committee also approved a measure by a 6-1 vote that would requires DYFS "to the maximum extent possible" place children in a foster or adoptive home with families willing to maintain their religious identity and instruction.
Sponsored by Lampitt and Assemblyman Gary Schaer (D-Passaic), the bill (2448) comes at the request of a Muslim man whose son was placed with a family that changed the boy’s name and converted him to Christianity before his parental rights was severed.
"They told him his name was not good enough for him," said Aref Assaf, president of the American Arab Forum. "This was done under the watchful eye of DYFS."

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Upcoming Workshop


Foster Care Parenting:
What every Muslim Family Needs to Know

Saturday, June 9, 2012
3:00pm-5:00pm

NBIC
1330 Livingston Avenue
New Brunswick, NJ 08902
www.nbic.org

CONFIRMED GUESTS:

-Dr. Aref Assaf, NJ Voices, Arab American Forum (www.aafusa.org)
-Dr. Shadee Elmasry
-Delisa Burns, DYFS recruiter

This workshop is to raise awareness in the community of the urgent need to understand the foster care process in the state of New Jersey and what actions we can take as individuals and families.

Please Note: Foster care is the temporary custody of a minor. We will not be discussing Adoption. They are 2 different things.

For more information, please visit:

http://muslimfosterandfamilyservices.blogspot.com/

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO INIVITE ANY FRIENDS OR FAMILY THAT MAY BE INTERESTED.


Friday, February 10, 2012

Update: Samina Khokhar Reunited with Children


February 1, 2012

 


Jamaica, NEW YORK (February 1, 2012)- ICNA Relief is extremely pleased to report that Samina Khokhar and her children have been reunited. The children were recently taken from their mother’s care after allegations of neglect from the Administration of Child Services (ACS).

After complying with court mandated bereavement counseling and parenting classes, the court ruled Samina was capable of caring for her children. Mother and children were reunited on January 26, 2012 after weeks of separation.
See previous article on this issue.
Samina's Family with ICNA Relief's case worker, Shahid Farooqi
Samina's Family with ICNA Relief's case worker, Shahid Farooqi
It was recognized by the court that the professional support that ICNA Relief provided for Samina was sufficient to allow for the return of her children. ICNA Relief was able to offer responsive services for the family that adhered to the standards of the court, and will continue to do so as the family heals.
While the children have been reunited with their mother, they will remain under the scrutiny of the child welfare system. ICNA Relief will continue to monitor the case and provide all necessary support to ensure the family remains together and gains some level of self-sufficiency after the passing of its sole provider. These services include an in-depth service plan, continued counseling services, medical care and financial support.
Please visit ICNA Relief to support such services.

Foster Care Workshop at ISCJ 2/11/2012

An interfaith effort to protect foster care children

nj.com

An interfaith effort to protect foster care children

Published: Tuesday, December 13, 2011, 5:42 PM     Updated: Thursday, December 15, 2011, 9:52 PM
Dr. Aref Assaf/NJ Voices


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Abdulrahman, born in 2004 to Muslim parents. When the state placed him with a non Muslim family, the child's faith and name were changed without permission from the birth parents. Even visits to religion services were not permitted.
Can the State force the change of a child’s religion? An opinion piece I wrote on the relevance of the religious dimension of foster care children has formed the foundation for an important legislation in New Jersey. The column was the result of a painful interview I had with the parent of a Muslim child who tearfully related the details of how his son, after being placed with a Christian family, had his faith changed and his name was no longer ‘Abdulrahman” but “Joshua.” Even before the father lost his parental rights, the conversion process was fully underway despite the stern objection of the birth parents.

That such a conversion of child’s faith would occur under the watchful eyes of the state is a case of deliberate negligence at minimum. Delving further, I discovered that our current laws give no credence to the pivotal role of religion in a child self-identification and sense of self worth. The State has in effect become complicit in furthering the trauma and anxiety of children under its care.


The piece argued that the foster care laws were either misunderstood or misapplied. I argued that a “change to New Jersey laws, we hope, will affirm rather than abrogate the duty of parents to choose and maintain the faith of their biological children because such a right is a natural one superseding those of the state. We should no longer accept the religious preference to be the right of the child only because children are inherently dependent on their parents for physical, moral, and spiritual fulfillment.”


I spared no effort to plead my case to those who cared to listen.

It was the good will of Imam Mohammad Qatanani, the spiritual leader of the Islamic Center of Passaic County, which led to a most fruitful relationship with Assemblyman Gary Schaer from Passaic (D-36). Asm. Schaer and I held many and long discussions (and with the support of our staff). The collaboration culminated in the drafting of legislation, (A-4354) which, if passed, will provide a foundational legal precedent that ensures the continuity of the child's religious traditions. The bill will “permit agencies and courts to place a child in a setting of a different religion only with a written statement from the child birth parent or legal guardian.”

Before our Governor Christie can sign a bill into law, it will require the approval of both chambers of NJ Legislature. The Assembly Bill will soon have companion bill in the NJ Senate. We are thrilled that Senator Tony Bucco (R-25) has formally agreed to act as the key sponsor of a similar bill early next year to coincide with the new session of the Senate. We also know that other Assemblymen and Senators have expressed their readiness to sponsor and vote for the bill when introduced.

It is worth noting that a prominent Jewish agency, Ohel Children's Home and Family Services, Inc, that helps children has also come aboard to support the effort. Several other ethnic and religious groups have joined our efforts as well. The legislation is, after all, faith-neutral and it will protect children of all faiths. From the start, CAIR NJ, the Council on American Islamic Affairs was a formidable supporter of the initiative.
The expected law will not be retroactive and thus it will not help the child whose fate has so touched me. It will, I hope, prevent other children and their parents form enduring such pain.

 The significance of all these efforts is not lost on me escpaillcy during this holiday season. Here you have elected politicians from both major parties lending their heartfelt support for amending the current laws to benefit all citizens. Here you have a Muslim reaching out to a Jew, and so passionately supported by a Christian and people from other faiths- but all are citizens of the United States, joining hands to lessen the trauma wrought upon our little citizens. These moments sustain my faith in America and its ability to refocus its moral compass when injustice is rendered.

   
Dr. Aref Assaf is President of American Forum and an Advisory Board Member of The Council on American Islamic Relations, NJ. Reach him at http://www.aafusa.org/
Here is a video of another travesty that befell an American family. Ultimately justice prevailed.
Click here for the draft copy of the Bill http://www.aafusa.org/DYFS-Bill-A-4353-Adoption-Foster%20Care-Religion%20Drafted%20bill.pdf

 
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Sunday, April 24, 2011

Foster Care Requirements


You must be an adult.
Foster parents must be at least 18 years old. There is no upper age limit, as long as you are in reasonable health. The Division will not preclude a person from being a foster parent based solely on their culture, religion, race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression, affectional orientation, or marital/civil union or domestic partnership status.

You must provide a safe environment for a child.
Whether you own or rent, you home must meet basic life and safety standards. It doesn't matter if your home is an apartment or a house, as long as it is a safe place for children.

You will receive training.
DYFS provides pre-service training so that you can help your foster child and work in partnership with other professionals. Ongoing training will help you be a successful foster parent.

Your entire household must be involved.
Everyone in a home participates in nurturing a child. All the members of your household must agree to the commitment of providing foster care for a child.

You can make a commitment to a child who needs help.
It's not always easy to be a foster parent. You must be willing to help a child through both good times and not-so-good times. You need to be counted on until the child returns to their family or a permanent home is found. This can take a few weeks or many months.

You can work as part of team.
Foster parents are the most important members of a team dedicated to the safety and well-being of foster children. Being a foster parent means working as a team with social workers, the court, teachers, doctors, therapists, and possibly even your foster child's birth family.

Steps to Becoming a Foster Parent
Call 1-877 NJ FOSTER or email us HERE.
A representative of Foster and Adoptive Family Services (FAFS) will ask you a few questions about yourself, your family and your interest in fostering or adopting a child.

Read the information provided to you.
Foster and Adoptive Family Services will send you a packet of information about DYFS, the children served and why foster parents are so important.

Come to an orientation.
Orientation is an opportunity to learn more about the specific issues related to foster parenting.  Sessions are held throughout New Jersey and FAFS will sign you up to attend one at your convenience.

Complete a homestudy with a Resource Family Support Worker and attend Pre-service Training.
Staff will guide you through an assessment process to help you and DYFS learn as much about each other as possible.  The pre-service training is designed to prepare you to become a foster parent.  DYFS requires that you complete both the homestudy and the pre-service training so that you may become licensed as a resource parent.


The licensing process includes nine weekly training sessions, each of which is three hours; a home evaluation; reference checks (medical, employment, personal); criminal history checks (including fingerprinting and local police checks); and a life safety home inspection. The licensing process usually is completed within five months.
http://www.state.nj.us/njfosteradopt/foster/requirements/

FAITH-BASED ADOPTIVE/FOSTER SERVICES

FAITH-BASED ADOPTIVE/FOSTER SERVICES:
FAITH COMMUNITIES’ ROLES IN CHILD WELFARE
  
Prepared for the Annie E. Casey Foundation
by the Center for Religion and Civic Culture,
University of Southern California

John B. Orr, Senior Research Associate
Grace Roberts Dyrness, Director of Community Research and Development
Peter W. Spoto, Researcher, USC School of Religion


“The nation’s Abrahamic faith communities—Christianity, Judaism, Islam—share a prophetic
tradition that promotes social justice advocacy, community organizing, and, also, the
delivery of human services for isolated, vulnerable, and politically weak populations.
Some expressions of this prophetic tradition, ironically, appear to be almost conservative—
i.e., when they supplement and extend a social welfare system that is already in place and
that is admittedly flawed. Their services often aim to make this system “work better”—in
supplementing the services that can be offered by public agencies; in humanizing the
interaction between participants and public agencies; in recruiting participants; and in
providing day-to-day support services for these participants.
Just as often—hopefully—faith-based spokespersons for the nation’s prophetic tradition
point out that even well-intended publicly-sponsored welfare services produce injustice.
They formulate and advocate needed changes in the laws and administrative policies that
guide public social programs. They pressure public agency officials to revise their missions
and/or to reshape their service strategies. They experiment with alternative service delivery
models.

In relation to public agencies that serve foster/adoptive children and families, faith
communities typically perform the following “value-added” roles.

· They recruit foster/adoptive parent candidates. In Los Angeles, for example,
ChildShare, a faith-based foster/adoptive parenting organization, actively recruits
foster/adoptive parents in congregations, often by issuing “biblically-based
invitations” during worship services. It uses staff members and volunteers to recruit
in Latino, African-American, and Asian-American congregations. Recently its reach
has extended to hearing-impaired congregations. It attempts to locate
foster/adoptive parents who adhere to a child’s own faith tradition. It tries to locate
foster/adoptive parents in a child’s own community.

Nationally, faith communities have established networks of organizations that recruit
foster/adoptive parents and then connect these recruits with public agencies to
assure that legal requirements are met. Examples: Catholic Adoptive Services,
Presbyterian Children’s Homes, Christian Child and Family Services Association
(Churches of Christ), the Salvation Army, Jewish Family Services, Lydia Home
Association (Evangelical Free Church of America), and an extensive system of
Southern Baptist state-based foster/adoptive organizations.

· They provide support services for foster/adoptive families in their own and other
congregations. Encouraged by ChildShare, FosterHope, Catholic Family Services,
Jewish Family Services and other similar faith-based organizations, congregations
offer support groups for foster/adoptive parents, respite child care services, food and
clothing, transportation, and sometimes even financial assistance. Fellow 2
congregation members send cards and flowers to celebrate the contributions of
foster/adoptive parents. They offer prayer support.

· They offer mentoring relationships for families, youth, and children who are at-risk.
Faith communities have a long history of mentoring services through organizations
such as Catholic Big Brothers/Big Sisters and Jewish Big Brothers/Big Sisters. Now
with the cooperation of these organizations, they are expanding mentoring
relationships to the children of prisoners and to children who are in danger of being
removed into the foster care system.

· They provide specialized family support service agencies for at-risk families and
children. Protestant, Jewish, and Catholic communities have constructed an
extensive network of shelters, multi-service agencies, specialized human service
agencies, clinics, and community centers that collaborate with public agencies.
While many of these are subsidized by public grants, they depend heavily on
monetary gifts, in-kind contributions, and volunteer hours from members of faith
communities. These organizations significantly expand the pool of crisis intervention
services that are available in urban low-income neighborhoods. They are often
perceived by residents as “neighborhood-based”—a perception, according to many
national and local studies, that reduces the fears of residents who are often wary of
public institutions.

· They participate in regional/city/neighborhood coalitions that try to assure a
continuum of care for at-risk families and children. Faith-service organizations
cooperate with other private sector welfare agencies, public welfare agencies,
universities, and congregations in informal and incorporated coalitions that expand
and reinforce each other’s contributions. For example, Project Hope in Los Angeles
has created a coalition that tries to assure that at-risk families have access to
needed family support services. The San Fernando Interfaith Council cooperates
with a large number of public and private agencies in their services for at-risk
families. Now that Council is making plans to participate contractually in a publiclyoperated
mall of family services that will be built in Los Angeles’ San Fernando
Valley.

· They put pressure on public agencies and legislative bodies to humanize
foster/adoptive strategies that are experienced as unjust. In California, for example,
the faith-based Faith Communities for Families and Children, which is associated
with the California Youth Law Center, actively opposes current public policy that
provides financial incentives for at-risk children to be placed in the foster care. Public
policy, they argue, is shaped by the fact that child welfare systems rely heavily on
federal funds that are directed toward children who are removed from their unstable
homes. The organization dramatizes abuses in Los Angeles County’s foster care
system, and calls for broad-scale reform—at least for the formulation of a
demonstration project, which, over a five year period of time, would test family
preservation theory.”


To read the full research study visit: http://www.fostercaremonth.org/GetInvolved/Toolkit/Support/Documents/Faith-based_Report.pdf