Thursday, May 22, 2014

Licensed Adoptive Home in Michigan Needed



WE ARE LOOKING FOR A LICENSED MUSLIM HOME IN MICHIGAN FOR A 7 YEAR OLD BOY. THIS IS A PERMANENT ADOPTION PLACEMENT through child protective services.

PLEASE EMAIL ME AT lalbana@gmail.com ONLY IF YOU ARE SERIOUSLY INTERESTED, LICENSED, AND LIVE IN MICHIGAN. 

PLEASE DO NOT EMAIL ME ASKING FOR WHY THE CHILD IS NEED OF A HOME. ALL ASPECTS OF THIS CASE ARE CONFIDENTIAL.


Also, if you would like to keep informed please fill out the following survey: 

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/3WG8WWH

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Urgent: Muslim Home needed for 16 and 17 year old brothers


The two boys, one 16 and the other 17 years of age are in need of a suitable resource or adoptive family. Their mother is suffering from a terminal illness and there is very little hope of a recovery, from what the DYFS worker sated. The children need to be placed in a home that is in Passaic County as they would like to be in close proximity to their mother who they visit often. Their biological father has returned to his home of origin and does not reside in New Jersey. From what the case worker states the children are thriving in their academic surroundings and there have nit been any reports of either child having any discipline or ill temperament issues. 

Anyone who is interested in either becoming a resource/adoptive parent or would consider bringing the two young men to their home, can contact me as soon as possible. Please be advised if you are not a licensed resource/adoptive parent and would consider bringing the children to your home, DYFS will place the children in your home and will begin the process of licensing you. Please be advised you do have to be a permanent resident of the U.S. in order to qualify as a resource/adoptive parent.

Please call Huma at WAFA house 1-800-930-9232 or email lalbana@gmail.com.

Also, if you would like to keep informed please fill out the following survey: 

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/3WG8WWH



Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Amer Foster Care Improvement Act Introduced in House of Representatives


Amer Foster Care Improvement Act Introduced in House of Representatives 
Washington, DC | www.adc.org | January 23, 2013 — The American-Arab Anti-Discrimination Committee (ADC), is proud to announce Representative John Conyers, Jr. (D-Mich.)'s introduction of H.R. 102, the “Rehab and Ahmed Amer Foster Care Improvement Act of 2013.” The Act will enhance the existing federal policy of encouraging state foster care programs to place children in the care of willing and able relatives. This legislation accomplishes this goal by requiring States that receive federal funding for foster care programs to add certain procedural enhancements to their foster care programs so as to ensure a more fair placement decision-making process.

For over two decades ADC has worked with the Amer family throughout their ordeal. The introduction of this bill is a culmination of a journey that started nearly 30 years ago in Dearborn, MI. ADC has been working on the introduction of the bill and welcomes the dedication shown by Congressman Conyers throughout the whole process. Read more about the struggles of this Arab American family.

ADC Legal and Policy Director Abed Ayoub states, “It is our hope that the bill can gain enough bipartisan support to become law. It is imperative that all children, regardless of race or ethnicity, are protected. We commend Congressman Conyers for introducing the bill and Congressman Gary Peters for co-signing. We urge all Americans to contact your member of Congress and voice your support for this important legislation.”

In a statement provided to ADC, Congressman John Conyers, “The best interests of the child should always be the overriding consideration when making foster care placement decisions. That standard, however, should also require foster care agencies to give special preference to placing a child with relatives, where the child can be raised in the same culture or religion as his or her own, all other things being equal.”

TAKE ACTION: Tell your Member of Congress to Support H.R. 102!
The Rehab and Ahmed Amer Foster Care Improvement Act of 2013 would require that a State, within 90 days after it makes a foster care placement decision, to provide notice of such decision to the following affected parties:
  • the child’s parents;
  • relatives who have informed the State of their interest in caring for the child;
  • the guardian; the guardian ad litem of the child;
  • the attorney for the child;
  • the attorney for each parent of the child;
  • the prosecutor involved; and
  • the child if he or she is able to express an opinion regarding placement.
Additionally, States must establish procedures that:
  • allow any of the parties who receive notice of the State’s placement decision to request, within five days after receipt of the notice, documentation of the reasons for the State’s decision;
  • allow the child’s attorney to petition the court involved to review the decision; and
  • require the court to commence such review within seven days after receipt of the petition and conduct such review on the record.

Learn more about the Amer Family's history
“In 1985, Rehab and Ahmed Amer lost two of their children to Michigan’s foster care system after Rehab had been subject to criminal charges related to the death of her two-year-old son Samier, who died because of head injuries resulting from a fall in a bathtub. Although Rehab had been acquitted in August 1986 of any criminal wrongdoing in connection with Samier’s death, the State refused to return the Amers’ other two children to them and, in fact, removed a third child from the Amers’ custody four months after Rehab’s acquittal.

“As a temporary alternative, Rehab’s brother petitioned to be a foster parent to the Amers’ three children, but was denied his petition even though he had previously served as a foster parent for other children. It is important to note that the Amers are Muslim. Nevertheless, the State, rather than placing the Amers’ children with a foster family of the same faith and cultural background, sent them to live with an evangelical Christian family, which re-named the Amers’ children – Mohamed Ali, Sueheir, and Zinabe – with Christian names and raised them as Christians.

“Today, only the oldest of the Amers’ three living children, Mohamed Ali, now known as Adam, communicates with them. In reaction to the Amers’ story, Michigan enacted what became known as the ‘Amer Law.’ That law requires foster care placement agencies in Michigan to consider and give special preference for relatives when making a foster care placement decision.

“The Amer Law is consistent with federal foster care policy, which also seeks to give preference to a child's relatives and, for Native American children, a family of the same cultural background as the child, when making placement decisions. The Amer Law, however, has several provisions that go beyond current federal law to ensure due process. In sum, this law gives parents, relatives, guardians, and the child in certain cases additional procedural rights, including the right to written notice and an explanation of a placement decision. In addition, it authorizes judicial review of a placement decision by a foster care agency.”

Source: Office of Congressman John Conyers

Saturday, December 1, 2012

Urgent Muslim Family Needed in NY

7YR OLD MUSLIM BOY NEEDS A HOME IN NEW YORK


Last time I posted a request, the Muslim community overwhelmingly responded with open hearts and open homes! We were able to locate 3 possible homes for the 2yr old girl and 3 yr old boy and we are in the process of finalizing procedures. Alhamdulilah!

Jazakum Allah for your efforts and please continue to work with me to help spread the word to parents who have lost their children and need community support and parents who are willing to give that support. We are in the process of reaching out to all the people that showed interest in becoming licensed Resource Families. Due to the large number of respondents and urgent cases that arise, it is taking much longer than we anticipated. 

Currently, we are working with a Muslim 7 yr old boy in NY who needs a permanent home. Unfortunately, we can only consider people who are already licensed in NY. Please forward this information to all those who may be able to help and have interested families that already have a NY license email Liali at lalbana@gmail.com. 

If you want to become part of our database, please visit this link and sign up today. 

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/3WG8WWH


Sunday, October 21, 2012

5th Annual Walk for Children in Foster Care


Walk for Children in Foster Care - Buccleuch Park

Walk for Children in Foster Care
NOTE: We will be walking rain or shine! Our walks are family events. This is a 5K (3.1 mile) walk.

You are invited to join Foster and Adoptive Family Services Foundation (FAFSF) in this year’s Walk for Children in Foster Care. Funds will be used to support the programs and services of Foster and Adoptive Family Services.
Registration is at 12:30 P.M. and the walk will begin at 1:30. 

Fundraising Goal

7days to go
$2,791.00raised of $10,000.00
$7,209.00to go

Donate


Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Licensed Muslim Families in NY Needed.


Mashallah!! The community's response to the adoption of the NJ toddlers was great. It proved how big our hearts are and willing to help each other we are when given the opportunity. As we all know, living here in the US you can't just step out of your house and find someone in need to help. It's usually through word of mouth and social media like this that we are informed of situations where we can be of assistance to others. While many people responded and hundreds of people were willing to help only a few could really do something due to the fact that they already had their licensing as resource families. 
We have 3 licensed resource families in NJ and many more that have begun this process! We are currently working to get permanent placement for the toddlers with one of them, insha'Allah.

We just got word of a new case in NY for a 7 yr old boy. We are looking fo
r families who are already licensed in NY to temporarily care for him until he is reunited with his family.

We also need as many licensed families so we can help support future cases. Please forward this questionnaire to your contacts so we may expand our national database. Currently we have families from Texas to Canada and from NY to California that are licensed within their states. We hope to get at least one family per county, inshallah. 

It saddens me to say that this is not a one time case or an every once in a while occurrence. The problem is real and recurring. More and more Muslim children are in need of your help. 

Friday, August 17, 2012

Muslim Families Needed to Adopt Siblings

Please click on the link below and fill out the survey if you are interested in Adoption or Foster care of Muslim children.


http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/3WG8WWH

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Family Needed to Adopt Muslim Boy and Girl Toddlers

I received a disturbing phone call last friday from a mother who said, "Can you help me find a Muslim family to adopt my 2 kids?" It was a rather chilling conversation with this mother who had been told that she would be losing custody of both her children in September. She was frantic and wanted to make sure they would be raised Muslim. She understands that her legal rights will be terminated as a parent but wants to ensure the safety and religion of her two young children-a 3 year old boy and 2 year old girl. This has to be the hardest thing a mother has to go through. May Allah keep her strong and give her patience.

I assured the mother that I would try my best to help find a Muslim family willing to adopt both of her children. The obstacle is that the family must be already licensed as a resource parent in order to qualify.

The hearing is in mid-September and we need to be able to provide the state with a licensed Muslim family or a family that has completed or is in the process of completing the homestudy evaluation.

It is imperative that we act now and step up. There have been many cases like this that we lost due to our slow response as a community and many more similar cases will arise in the future.

You can help today by signing up to become a resource parent and joining our database so we have something to present to the state when a child is taken into custody.

You can call 1-877-NJFOSTER to begin the process or email me directly at lalbana@gmail.com


Tuesday, June 26, 2012

H.R. 6021, the “Rehab and Ahmed Amer Foster Care Improvement Act of 2012"




For Immediate Release
Date: Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Contact: Matthew Morgan – 202-226-5543

Conyers Introduces Legislation to Improve Placement Decisions in Child Foster Care Programs  

(WASHINGTON)Today, Representative John Conyers, Jr. (D-Mich.) introduced H.R. 6021, the “Rehab and Ahmed Amer Foster Care Improvement Act of 2012.”  The Act will enhance the existing federal policy of encouraging state foster care programs to place children in the care of willing and able relatives.  This legislation accomplishes this goal by requiring States that receive federal funding for foster care programs to add certain procedural enhancements to their foster care programs so as to ensure a more fair placement decision-making process.  Rep. Conyers released the following statement following the bill’s introduction:

“In 1985, Rehab and Ahmed Amer lost two of their children to Michigan’s foster care system after Rehab had been subject to criminal charges related to the death of her two-year-old son Samier, who died because of head injuries resulting from a fall in a bathtub.  Although Rehab had been acquitted in August 1986 of any criminal wrongdoing in connection with Samier’s death, the State refused to return the Amers’ other two children to them and, in fact, removed a third child from the Amers’ custody four months after Rehab’s acquittal.

“As a temporary alternative, Rehab’s brother petitioned to be a foster parent to the Amers’ three children, but was denied his petition even though he had previously served as a foster parent for other children.  It is important to note that the Amers are Muslim.  Nevertheless, the State, rather than placing the Amers’ children with a foster family of the same faith and cultural background, sent them to live with an evangelical Christian family, which re-named the Amers’ children –  Mohamed Ali, Sueheir, and Zinabe – with Christian names and raised them as Christians.

“Today, only the oldest of the Amers’ three living children, Mohamed Ali, now known as Adam, communicates with them.  In reaction to the Amers’ story, Michigan enacted what became known as the ‘Amer Law.’  That law requires foster care placement agencies in Michigan to consider and give special preference for relatives when making a foster care placement decision.

“The Amer Law is consistent with federal foster care policy, which also seeks to give preference to a child's relatives and, for Native American children, a family of the same cultural background as the child, when making placement decisions.  The Amer Law, however, has several provisions that go beyond current federal law to ensure due process.  In sum, this law gives parents, relatives, guardians, and the child in certain cases additional procedural rights, including the right to written notice and an explanation of a placement decision.  In addition, it authorizes judicial review of a placement decision by a foster care agency. 

“My legislation simply adds these enhanced due process features of the Amer Law to existing federal foster care law.
               
“The best interests of the child should always be the overriding consideration when making foster care placement decisions.  That standard, however, should also require foster care agencies to give special preference to placing a child with relatives, where the child can be raised in the same culture or religion as his or her own, all other things being equal.
               
“I thank Rehab and Ahmed Amer for bringing this issue to light and for their tireless efforts to make the foster care placement process fairer for everyone, first in Michigan, and, now, nationally.

The Rehab and Ahmed Amer Foster Care Improvement Act of 2012 would require that a State, within 90 days after it makes a foster care placement decision, to provide notice of such decision to the following affected parties:

                ●             the child’s parents;
                ●             relatives who have informed the State of their interest in caring for the child;
                ●             the guardian;
                ●             the guardian ad litem of the child;
                ●             the attorney for the child;
                ●             the attorney for each parent of the child;
                ●             the prosecutor involved; and
                ●             the child if he or she is able to express an opinion regarding placement.

Additionally, States must establish procedures that:

                ●             allow any of the parties who receive notice of the State’s placement decision to request, within five days after receipt of the notice, documentation of the reasons for the State’s decision;
                ●             allow the child’s attorney to petition the court involved to review the decision; and
                ●             require the court to commence such review within seven days after receipt of the petition and conduct such review on the record.

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Bill 2448 Approved!

Assembly panel approves bill regulating home-schooling of foster children despite outcry

Published: Tuesday, May 15, 2012, 7:30 AM




TRENTON — An Assembly panel approved two bills Monday intended to protect the rights of foster children to receive an education and to practice their religion. At the same time, parents who home-school their children expressed concern about the state intruding on their privacy.
The more controversial of the two bills (A2881) would require foster parents to obtain approval from the state Division of Youth and Family Services to home-school any child placed in their home.
More than 50 parents and their children urged the Assembly Women and Children Committee to delay the vote until the bill could be rewritten to more clearly state that only children removed from their homes because of suspected abuse or neglect would be affected.
New Jersey is one of 11 states that does not regulate home-schooling.
"We don’t like giving DYFS any more power than they already have," said Rabbi Andrew Dinnerman of Fairview, who was accompanied by his 15-year-old son, Tristan, who is home-schooled. "I want you to pause — to slow down and not make any rash decisions."
But Assemblywoman Pamela Lampitt (D-Camden), the committee chairwoman, insisted the bill be put to a vote, and assured parents they were not the focus of her attention.
The measure was inspired by a case nine years ago of four brothers who were adopted by a Collingswood foster family. The family removed the boys from public school and deprived them of food and medical care until their growth was stunted.
"This has everything to do with making sure children in DYFS care have another set of eyes," Lampitt said moments before the bill was approved by a vote of 5 to 2.
The committee also approved a measure by a 6-1 vote that would requires DYFS "to the maximum extent possible" place children in a foster or adoptive home with families willing to maintain their religious identity and instruction.
Sponsored by Lampitt and Assemblyman Gary Schaer (D-Passaic), the bill (2448) comes at the request of a Muslim man whose son was placed with a family that changed the boy’s name and converted him to Christianity before his parental rights was severed.
"They told him his name was not good enough for him," said Aref Assaf, president of the American Arab Forum. "This was done under the watchful eye of DYFS."

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Upcoming Workshop


Foster Care Parenting:
What every Muslim Family Needs to Know

Saturday, June 9, 2012
3:00pm-5:00pm

NBIC
1330 Livingston Avenue
New Brunswick, NJ 08902
www.nbic.org

CONFIRMED GUESTS:

-Dr. Aref Assaf, NJ Voices, Arab American Forum (www.aafusa.org)
-Dr. Shadee Elmasry
-Delisa Burns, DYFS recruiter

This workshop is to raise awareness in the community of the urgent need to understand the foster care process in the state of New Jersey and what actions we can take as individuals and families.

Please Note: Foster care is the temporary custody of a minor. We will not be discussing Adoption. They are 2 different things.

For more information, please visit:

http://muslimfosterandfamilyservices.blogspot.com/

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO INIVITE ANY FRIENDS OR FAMILY THAT MAY BE INTERESTED.


Friday, February 10, 2012

Update: Samina Khokhar Reunited with Children


February 1, 2012

 


Jamaica, NEW YORK (February 1, 2012)- ICNA Relief is extremely pleased to report that Samina Khokhar and her children have been reunited. The children were recently taken from their mother’s care after allegations of neglect from the Administration of Child Services (ACS).

After complying with court mandated bereavement counseling and parenting classes, the court ruled Samina was capable of caring for her children. Mother and children were reunited on January 26, 2012 after weeks of separation.
See previous article on this issue.
Samina's Family with ICNA Relief's case worker, Shahid Farooqi
Samina's Family with ICNA Relief's case worker, Shahid Farooqi
It was recognized by the court that the professional support that ICNA Relief provided for Samina was sufficient to allow for the return of her children. ICNA Relief was able to offer responsive services for the family that adhered to the standards of the court, and will continue to do so as the family heals.
While the children have been reunited with their mother, they will remain under the scrutiny of the child welfare system. ICNA Relief will continue to monitor the case and provide all necessary support to ensure the family remains together and gains some level of self-sufficiency after the passing of its sole provider. These services include an in-depth service plan, continued counseling services, medical care and financial support.
Please visit ICNA Relief to support such services.

Foster Care Workshop at ISCJ 2/11/2012

An interfaith effort to protect foster care children

nj.com

An interfaith effort to protect foster care children

Published: Tuesday, December 13, 2011, 5:42 PM     Updated: Thursday, December 15, 2011, 9:52 PM
Dr. Aref Assaf/NJ Voices


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Abdulrahman, born in 2004 to Muslim parents. When the state placed him with a non Muslim family, the child's faith and name were changed without permission from the birth parents. Even visits to religion services were not permitted.
Can the State force the change of a child’s religion? An opinion piece I wrote on the relevance of the religious dimension of foster care children has formed the foundation for an important legislation in New Jersey. The column was the result of a painful interview I had with the parent of a Muslim child who tearfully related the details of how his son, after being placed with a Christian family, had his faith changed and his name was no longer ‘Abdulrahman” but “Joshua.” Even before the father lost his parental rights, the conversion process was fully underway despite the stern objection of the birth parents.

That such a conversion of child’s faith would occur under the watchful eyes of the state is a case of deliberate negligence at minimum. Delving further, I discovered that our current laws give no credence to the pivotal role of religion in a child self-identification and sense of self worth. The State has in effect become complicit in furthering the trauma and anxiety of children under its care.


The piece argued that the foster care laws were either misunderstood or misapplied. I argued that a “change to New Jersey laws, we hope, will affirm rather than abrogate the duty of parents to choose and maintain the faith of their biological children because such a right is a natural one superseding those of the state. We should no longer accept the religious preference to be the right of the child only because children are inherently dependent on their parents for physical, moral, and spiritual fulfillment.”


I spared no effort to plead my case to those who cared to listen.

It was the good will of Imam Mohammad Qatanani, the spiritual leader of the Islamic Center of Passaic County, which led to a most fruitful relationship with Assemblyman Gary Schaer from Passaic (D-36). Asm. Schaer and I held many and long discussions (and with the support of our staff). The collaboration culminated in the drafting of legislation, (A-4354) which, if passed, will provide a foundational legal precedent that ensures the continuity of the child's religious traditions. The bill will “permit agencies and courts to place a child in a setting of a different religion only with a written statement from the child birth parent or legal guardian.”

Before our Governor Christie can sign a bill into law, it will require the approval of both chambers of NJ Legislature. The Assembly Bill will soon have companion bill in the NJ Senate. We are thrilled that Senator Tony Bucco (R-25) has formally agreed to act as the key sponsor of a similar bill early next year to coincide with the new session of the Senate. We also know that other Assemblymen and Senators have expressed their readiness to sponsor and vote for the bill when introduced.

It is worth noting that a prominent Jewish agency, Ohel Children's Home and Family Services, Inc, that helps children has also come aboard to support the effort. Several other ethnic and religious groups have joined our efforts as well. The legislation is, after all, faith-neutral and it will protect children of all faiths. From the start, CAIR NJ, the Council on American Islamic Affairs was a formidable supporter of the initiative.
The expected law will not be retroactive and thus it will not help the child whose fate has so touched me. It will, I hope, prevent other children and their parents form enduring such pain.

 The significance of all these efforts is not lost on me escpaillcy during this holiday season. Here you have elected politicians from both major parties lending their heartfelt support for amending the current laws to benefit all citizens. Here you have a Muslim reaching out to a Jew, and so passionately supported by a Christian and people from other faiths- but all are citizens of the United States, joining hands to lessen the trauma wrought upon our little citizens. These moments sustain my faith in America and its ability to refocus its moral compass when injustice is rendered.

   
Dr. Aref Assaf is President of American Forum and an Advisory Board Member of The Council on American Islamic Relations, NJ. Reach him at http://www.aafusa.org/
Here is a video of another travesty that befell an American family. Ultimately justice prevailed.
Click here for the draft copy of the Bill http://www.aafusa.org/DYFS-Bill-A-4353-Adoption-Foster%20Care-Religion%20Drafted%20bill.pdf

 
© 2012 NJ.com. All rights reserved.

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Foster Care Requirements


You must be an adult.
Foster parents must be at least 18 years old. There is no upper age limit, as long as you are in reasonable health. The Division will not preclude a person from being a foster parent based solely on their culture, religion, race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression, affectional orientation, or marital/civil union or domestic partnership status.

You must provide a safe environment for a child.
Whether you own or rent, you home must meet basic life and safety standards. It doesn't matter if your home is an apartment or a house, as long as it is a safe place for children.

You will receive training.
DYFS provides pre-service training so that you can help your foster child and work in partnership with other professionals. Ongoing training will help you be a successful foster parent.

Your entire household must be involved.
Everyone in a home participates in nurturing a child. All the members of your household must agree to the commitment of providing foster care for a child.

You can make a commitment to a child who needs help.
It's not always easy to be a foster parent. You must be willing to help a child through both good times and not-so-good times. You need to be counted on until the child returns to their family or a permanent home is found. This can take a few weeks or many months.

You can work as part of team.
Foster parents are the most important members of a team dedicated to the safety and well-being of foster children. Being a foster parent means working as a team with social workers, the court, teachers, doctors, therapists, and possibly even your foster child's birth family.

Steps to Becoming a Foster Parent
Call 1-877 NJ FOSTER or email us HERE.
A representative of Foster and Adoptive Family Services (FAFS) will ask you a few questions about yourself, your family and your interest in fostering or adopting a child.

Read the information provided to you.
Foster and Adoptive Family Services will send you a packet of information about DYFS, the children served and why foster parents are so important.

Come to an orientation.
Orientation is an opportunity to learn more about the specific issues related to foster parenting.  Sessions are held throughout New Jersey and FAFS will sign you up to attend one at your convenience.

Complete a homestudy with a Resource Family Support Worker and attend Pre-service Training.
Staff will guide you through an assessment process to help you and DYFS learn as much about each other as possible.  The pre-service training is designed to prepare you to become a foster parent.  DYFS requires that you complete both the homestudy and the pre-service training so that you may become licensed as a resource parent.


The licensing process includes nine weekly training sessions, each of which is three hours; a home evaluation; reference checks (medical, employment, personal); criminal history checks (including fingerprinting and local police checks); and a life safety home inspection. The licensing process usually is completed within five months.
http://www.state.nj.us/njfosteradopt/foster/requirements/

FAITH-BASED ADOPTIVE/FOSTER SERVICES

FAITH-BASED ADOPTIVE/FOSTER SERVICES:
FAITH COMMUNITIES’ ROLES IN CHILD WELFARE
  
Prepared for the Annie E. Casey Foundation
by the Center for Religion and Civic Culture,
University of Southern California

John B. Orr, Senior Research Associate
Grace Roberts Dyrness, Director of Community Research and Development
Peter W. Spoto, Researcher, USC School of Religion


“The nation’s Abrahamic faith communities—Christianity, Judaism, Islam—share a prophetic
tradition that promotes social justice advocacy, community organizing, and, also, the
delivery of human services for isolated, vulnerable, and politically weak populations.
Some expressions of this prophetic tradition, ironically, appear to be almost conservative—
i.e., when they supplement and extend a social welfare system that is already in place and
that is admittedly flawed. Their services often aim to make this system “work better”—in
supplementing the services that can be offered by public agencies; in humanizing the
interaction between participants and public agencies; in recruiting participants; and in
providing day-to-day support services for these participants.
Just as often—hopefully—faith-based spokespersons for the nation’s prophetic tradition
point out that even well-intended publicly-sponsored welfare services produce injustice.
They formulate and advocate needed changes in the laws and administrative policies that
guide public social programs. They pressure public agency officials to revise their missions
and/or to reshape their service strategies. They experiment with alternative service delivery
models.

In relation to public agencies that serve foster/adoptive children and families, faith
communities typically perform the following “value-added” roles.

· They recruit foster/adoptive parent candidates. In Los Angeles, for example,
ChildShare, a faith-based foster/adoptive parenting organization, actively recruits
foster/adoptive parents in congregations, often by issuing “biblically-based
invitations” during worship services. It uses staff members and volunteers to recruit
in Latino, African-American, and Asian-American congregations. Recently its reach
has extended to hearing-impaired congregations. It attempts to locate
foster/adoptive parents who adhere to a child’s own faith tradition. It tries to locate
foster/adoptive parents in a child’s own community.

Nationally, faith communities have established networks of organizations that recruit
foster/adoptive parents and then connect these recruits with public agencies to
assure that legal requirements are met. Examples: Catholic Adoptive Services,
Presbyterian Children’s Homes, Christian Child and Family Services Association
(Churches of Christ), the Salvation Army, Jewish Family Services, Lydia Home
Association (Evangelical Free Church of America), and an extensive system of
Southern Baptist state-based foster/adoptive organizations.

· They provide support services for foster/adoptive families in their own and other
congregations. Encouraged by ChildShare, FosterHope, Catholic Family Services,
Jewish Family Services and other similar faith-based organizations, congregations
offer support groups for foster/adoptive parents, respite child care services, food and
clothing, transportation, and sometimes even financial assistance. Fellow 2
congregation members send cards and flowers to celebrate the contributions of
foster/adoptive parents. They offer prayer support.

· They offer mentoring relationships for families, youth, and children who are at-risk.
Faith communities have a long history of mentoring services through organizations
such as Catholic Big Brothers/Big Sisters and Jewish Big Brothers/Big Sisters. Now
with the cooperation of these organizations, they are expanding mentoring
relationships to the children of prisoners and to children who are in danger of being
removed into the foster care system.

· They provide specialized family support service agencies for at-risk families and
children. Protestant, Jewish, and Catholic communities have constructed an
extensive network of shelters, multi-service agencies, specialized human service
agencies, clinics, and community centers that collaborate with public agencies.
While many of these are subsidized by public grants, they depend heavily on
monetary gifts, in-kind contributions, and volunteer hours from members of faith
communities. These organizations significantly expand the pool of crisis intervention
services that are available in urban low-income neighborhoods. They are often
perceived by residents as “neighborhood-based”—a perception, according to many
national and local studies, that reduces the fears of residents who are often wary of
public institutions.

· They participate in regional/city/neighborhood coalitions that try to assure a
continuum of care for at-risk families and children. Faith-service organizations
cooperate with other private sector welfare agencies, public welfare agencies,
universities, and congregations in informal and incorporated coalitions that expand
and reinforce each other’s contributions. For example, Project Hope in Los Angeles
has created a coalition that tries to assure that at-risk families have access to
needed family support services. The San Fernando Interfaith Council cooperates
with a large number of public and private agencies in their services for at-risk
families. Now that Council is making plans to participate contractually in a publiclyoperated
mall of family services that will be built in Los AngelesSan Fernando
Valley.

· They put pressure on public agencies and legislative bodies to humanize
foster/adoptive strategies that are experienced as unjust. In California, for example,
the faith-based Faith Communities for Families and Children, which is associated
with the California Youth Law Center, actively opposes current public policy that
provides financial incentives for at-risk children to be placed in the foster care. Public
policy, they argue, is shaped by the fact that child welfare systems rely heavily on
federal funds that are directed toward children who are removed from their unstable
homes. The organization dramatizes abuses in Los Angeles County’s foster care
system, and calls for broad-scale reform—at least for the formulation of a
demonstration project, which, over a five year period of time, would test family
preservation theory.”


To read the full research study visit: http://www.fostercaremonth.org/GetInvolved/Toolkit/Support/Documents/Faith-based_Report.pdf



Thursday, April 21, 2011

THE ISLAMIC VIEW OF ADOPTION AND CARING FOR HOMELESS CHILDREN

 
THE ISLAMIC VIEW OF ADOPTION AND CARING FOR HOMELESS CHILDREN

By Imad-ad-Dean Ahmad, Ph.D.

Minaret of Freedom Institute, Bethesda, MD
[Published in Adoption Fact Book III (Washington: National Council for Adoption, 1999)]

The most famous orphan in Islamic culture is, without doubt, the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. His father died before he was born and by the time he was eight he had lost both his mother and the grandfather who named him. He was subsequently raised by his Uncle Abu Talib who continued to be his protector until his own death, when Muhammad was an adult of almost fifty years of age.
When Muhammad's wife Khadijah gave to him a slave named Zaid, Muhammad freed the boy and raised him as if he were his own son. The importance of taking homeless children to care for them is well-established in Islam. Given these facts, it is somewhat startling to hear Muslims assert that adoption in prohibited in Islam. The confusion is over the precise definition of the term adoption. We shall seek to clarify the issue here.
The Islam form of "adoption" is called kafâla, which literally means sponsorship, but comes from the root word meaning "to feed." It is best translated as "foster parenting." Algerian family law defines the concept thusly: "Kafala, or legal fostering, is the promise to undertake without payment the upkeep, education and protection of a minor, in the same way as a father would do for his son".
If "legal fostering" in Islam requires fulfilling these parental duties "in the same way as a father would do for his son," then how does it differ from legal adoption as understood in the United States? There are three significant differences: denial or acknowledgement of identity by blood lineage, inheritance, and implications for the possibilities of marriage partners. I shall discuss these in reverse order.
Although the specifics differ in the two cases, both American law and Islamic law use proximity of relation as a criterion for the permissibility of marriage. Under Islamic law and in some states first cousins may marry, but under neither law could a father marry his daughter. Under Islamic law a man may not marry his son's ex-wife, but he may marry his adopted son's ex-wife. This fact does not mean that adoption is illegal, it only means that a legal system that imposes a prohibition on marriage to the ex-wife of an adopted son is imposing an additional constraint beyond that imposed by Islamic law. An examination of the relevant Qur'anic verse clearly shows its purpose is to reform the practice of adoption by removing such prohibitions rather than to end the practice:
God has not made … your adopted sons your sons. Such is (only) your (manner of) speech by your mouths. But God tells (you) the Truth and He shows the (right) Way. Call them by (the names) of their fathers: that is more just in the sight of God but if ye know not their father's (names call them) your Brothers in faith or your Maulâs. But there is no blame on you if ye make a mistake therein: (what counts is) the intention of your hearts: and God is Oft-Returning Most Merciful. The Prophet is closer to the Believers than their own selves and his wives are their mothers. Blood-relations among each other have closer personal ties in the Decree of God than (the Brotherhood of) Believers and Muhajirs: nevertheless do ye what is just to your closest friends: such is the writing in the Decree (of God). 

The wording is very significant here. The text does not ban adoption, but only says that the use of the word "son" with respect to an adoptee is just a phrase and not a blood (or genetic) fact. Nor should it be inferred that it is prohibiting the use of the word son (in a metaphorical sense), since it should then logically follow that the term brother (explicitly approved in the text) would also have to be prohibited for the same reasons. Our adopted sons are not our genetic sons any more than our brothers in faith are our genetic brothers. The purpose of the verse is clearly to prevent drawing legal restrictions from the metaphorical use of the word "son" in describing a foster relationship. Thus one might marry the ex-wife of one's foster son (as one might marry the ex-wife of a blood brother), but one can no more marry a daughter than one could marry a sister.
Analogy to blood relations is not the only relevant issue here. Islamic law forbids a man to marry a woman who had been suckled by the same wet nurse as the man, regardless of whether either was adopted by the wet nurse. Here, too, we see that the issue is not adoption, but how social relationships bear on the question of marriageability.

The issue of inheritance may be dealt with briefly. In most American states, an adopted child has the same automatic rights of inheritance as a genetic child. In a few states, as under Islamic law, inheritance is not automatic but needs to be specified in the will. American law recognizes the validity of wills that specify an inheritance distribution based on Islamic law, so this constitutes no objection to adoption by American Muslims.

Finally, we consider the issue of identity by blood lineage. It has been the custom in America to downplay (or even) hide the identity of blood parents in cases of adoption. Recently there has been a welcome trend giving adopted children some rights to discovery in this matter. In this respect American laws are moving in an Islamic direction. The advantages from a medical point of view to such knowledge are obvious, but there are also issues of the subjective importance of knowing one's own identity. The verses of the Qur'an quoted above makes it clear that identity is defined by blood. Experience shows that openness about the true identity of children need not be an obstacle to love and caring between foster parents and adoptees. This is an especially important issue for American Muslims adopting children from abroad. It is neither necessary nor desirable to deny the cultural heritage of these children.

Inroduction

 
Assalamu Alaikum! 

Recent events including a Muslim family from our community that had 3
boys placed in a non-Muslim foster home is among many numerous similar
incidents that has led to the formation of this initiative to raise
awareness of this growing need for Licensed Muslim Foster Resource
Parents. Perhaps the most publicized problem with the current system
became apparent in March 13, 2010.

[Ahmed was born to Muslim parents. However, Ahmed was separated from
his natural parents and placed with a Christian foster family even
though Muslim foster parents were available, including Ahmed’s
paternal uncle, who completed all the paperwork and the training
required to qualify to provide foster care. More recently, Ahmed has
been denied all visitations with his natural parents, even though they
continue to seek reunification through the courts. Also, police
reports and hospital emergency room reports have been brought to our
attention that indicate the alleged abuse of this little child while
he has been under the care of the foster parents. It has been reported
to CAIR-NJ that, during open court proceedings, the foster mother
admitted to hitting Ahmed with a hair brush, later saying that it was
a mistake and that it only happened because she forgot to take her
medication that day. Accompanying hospital emergency room reports
reflect that the bruises on the child were “consistent with corporal
punishment or physical abuse.”

The foster parents have stated their intent to adopt Ahmed and have
apparently begun the adoption process. CAIR-NJ has been informed that
Ahmed’s name has been changed and he is being raised as a Christian.
DYFS policy specifically mandates the requirements on foster families
to continue the religion of the parents or obtain written permission
for a child to attend services of a different religion.] CAIR-NJ June
25, 2010 Update

The following is a plea for Muslim Foster Parents by a Christian
organization, Lutheran Social Services.

"We get calls for Muslim foster families, for Muslim children...and we
cannot place them. When everyone says no, that means they are placed
wherever the state can place them. That will be within a culture and
religion that is foreign to them. Every day they are within a non-
Muslim home diminishes their Muslim identity." Molley Dagget, MSW,
Lutheran Social Services. 

We are looking to start up a Muslim Foster and Family Services non-
profit organization with the following goals:

-to raise awareness for the urgent need of Muslim foster parents to
serve the growing number of Muslim children placed in the state foster
care system and prevent the placement of Muslim children in non-Muslim
homes.

-to highlight the importance of the immediate formation of a support
network for all social aspects of our growing Muslim community.

-to alleviate the anxiety and sense of suffering due to financial,
health, or emotional burdens through the use of open discussion and
referrals to professional for each problem.

-to become a strong positive presence in the community by assisting
people of all faiths.

-to educate the Muslim community of their legal rights with regards to
NJ Department of Children and Families.

We are looking for motivated members of the community to assist in the
following areas:

o       Potential foster parents
o       Family lawyers
o       Child psychologists
o       Social workers
o       Liaison to sister organizations with similar interests
o       Media/ public outreach coordinator
o       Hotline operator
o       Fundraising director 
o       Event planner
o       Website developer
 
Immediate goals for May/June are:

* to spread the word in the Muslim community through the use of social
media outlets such as Twitter, Facebook, Linked-in and other various
list-servs to generate interest and support.

*create a website with all relevant resources

*contact DCF and begin training and licensing of interested families
by July 2011.

*create a referral database and start a dialogue with organizations
that share similar goals.

Please forward this email to anyone you feel that might be interested
in joining this effort. Together insha'Allah we can make a difference!